Jameela Jamil is continuing to reflect on the “epic fallout” of her texts about Blake Lively being leaked amid the It Ends With Us legal drama.
Jamil, 39, reflected on being “embroiled within” the “controversy” in a Substack post shared Sunday, January 25, giving readers a brief summary of the events.
“In short, I slagged off an actor in private, over their diabolical press tour in August 2024, and then the phone of the person I was texting got taken, and its contents were handed over to a third party, which unfortunately, but classically, resulted in my texts being seen by the exact person I was slagging off … (lol)!” she wrote. “Four months later, that person filed a lawsuit (not as lol), that involved the person I had been texting (because of course)… and for some reason, a year later, my texts were released, in spite of having little to no relevance to the case, with my name unredacted, to the entire world.”
The actress admitted she “braced for cover” after the messages were made public, recognizing that she was “about to eat s***” for her comments.
“And I absolutely did. 24 hours of death threats, lots of accusations of not being a real feminist, lots of encouragement for me to kill myself,” she claimed. “It was heavy.”
Jamil’s texts were uncovered in court documents obtained by Us Weekly on Wednesday, January 21, as Lively’s lawsuit against It Ends With Us director and costar Justin Baldoni continues. While speaking with Baldoni’s publicist Jennifer Abel, Jamil referred to Lively, 38, as a “suicide bomber” and a “villain.”
In a video shared via TikTok on Friday, January 24, Jamil broke down the “timing” of her messages, explaining that her texts were sent in August 2024 — months before Lively filed her lawsuit against Baldoni, 41, in December 2024. (Lively accused Baldoni of harassment on set of It Ends With Us and alleged he attempted to destroy her reputation. He has continued to deny the claims.)
“Once I made the above video highlighting the timeline and context of the texts in question … Everyone took a breath,” Jamil wrote on Sunday. “They checked the texts again. Suddenly, the waves calmed, pulled back this ocean of hate, and swelled it all up into a tsunami of solidarity. … My moment of disgrace, morphed into a mirror for everyone, of who any of us really are when only our closest friends are watching. And for many of us, that person is an absolute s*** bag.”
Jamil admitted that it’s not always possible to say the right things in moments of “hurt,” noting, “Sometimes we just want to say the unsayable … We want to shock. We want to make someone laugh. We want to bite back. We want to be the smaller man. We want violence. We want vengeance. We want to feel superior for a minute. It’s not always that deep. We are all just overgrown toddlers with bad knees and taxes.”
The Good Place alum also admitted that she feels “conflicted” about the price of authenticity, particularly for women in the public eye.
“While I HATE that my privacy was invaded by my texts being unredacted and leaked … I have to say … I feel a sense of liberation from it. Not only because I am always trying to cannonball/belly flop off the pedestal I get frequently thrust upon for just giving a s***. But also, because we need to see more examples of how women talk with their girlfriends when their girlfriends are hurting,” Jamil wrote, calling herself “the friend who holds a grudge for 20 years against whoever makes you cry, even if you have forgiven them.”
Jamil added that women often “ride at dawn for each other,” no matter the consequences. “Society doesn’t allow us to be ugly in any way, anyhow or anywhere. Within our tight little circles is our only outlet,” she continued. “We don’t have to smile or be palatable, or reasonable or appealing. You can just be crazy and unattractive and witnessed and toothless and accepted. It’s such a relief. … Misbehaving is how I’ve learned almost everything valuable in this life, and who my real people are.”
Jamil concluded by saying that she supports the idea of being “a forever work in progress,” reminding readers, “I believe you can have the rest of your life to learn. I think you should be striving for a personal best, and nothing more.”
Lively, for her part, has not publicly addressed Jamil’s messages after they were released. A source told Us earlier this month, however, “It’s disappointing that instead of listening to women when they speak out other women call them names and discredit them in defense of a fake male feminist.”
Lively and Baldoni are expected to begin trial in May.
